Healthy anger

“The summer rioting in UK brought the issue of anger to the front of my mind.  I’m fascinated by this emotion, as I feel it is rarely permitted to be expressed in a healthy way.”

Anger is mostly misunderstood. I don't claim to be an expert on anger management, but what I do know is this: Unexpressed anger turns to rage. Rage is far more dangerous than anger. Once it reaches this boiling point, it is potentially destructive. So what can we do to have healthy anger?

In my personal journey, I have discovered three stages to heal anger - Release, Expression and Forgiveness. Anger is a fast moving emotion. It seeks an outlet, usually through the mouth or fists! If this physical release is suppressed, the anger simply stays locked in the body, waiting. This can build and build, until the person can no longer contain it, and has some kind of tantrum, breakdown, or worse, depression. An ideal way to release this pent up emotion is through physical exercise. One can take all those angry thoughts, really feel the anger, and then run, box, skip, or push weights.

Once the physical energy is spent, it is time to talk to whomever provoked the anger. This can now be done without the emotional charge surging through the body, and set healthy personal boundaries. There are, of course, instances where it is impossible to speak the truth, because of the risk involved. One could then write a letter explaining these feelings... and destroy the letter.

The last part of healing the anger is to forgive. First forgive yourself for your part in conflict, then forgive the others. Those who find forgiveness difficult, could try this meditation: Imagine yourself on a beautiful quiet beach. Write in the sand "I forgive" and then write all the names of the people who come into your mind. In this peaceful place, it is easier to let go of any unhealthy attachments to negative relationships. When managed properly, anger becomes vital for our sense of self respect.

When coaching psychic development, I take a holistic approach to my students' journeys. Only by becoming a clear channel, can we effectively bring forward spiritual messages.

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